More Lessons From my Grandfather

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! The inspiration for today’s article is actually twofold. The first is that it’s been almost a year since my grandfather passed away. Those of you who know me personally may already know this, but I never really made that big of a deal out of it since I was simply at a loss for words after it happened. Since the passage of time after it happened, however, I feel like it would be a good time to put out yet another tribute to a man who has inspired not only myself, but virtually everybody he came across. The second is this article that my sister wrote as a tribute to my grandfather shortly after he passed. If you want to get a better sense of what I’m going to say in this article, I would highly recommend reading hers first. So without any further delay, let’s see what my grandfather can teach ny of you young gents!

1. Loving what you do

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Grandpa always had a project to work on. Whether it was in his personal workshop at his house, or his personally-owned metal shop, he was always tinkering with something, and it’s for one simple reason: he loved what he did. He simply did it because he loved to do it, and while he certainly would be rewarded for it, whether it be monetarily or otherwise, that was never his goal. He did it because it was what he knew and what he loved. Not only was he the personification of joyful productivity as my sister puts it, but nothing brought grandpa more joy than seeing other people do what they love. He always saw the value in hard work and enjoying what you do, so he had no reservations in appreciating the talents of others, especially if it was something that was outside of wheelhouse. If he knew that someone worked hard on something simply for the love of doing it, he would support them the whole way.

2. Give as much as you get

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It’s no secret that grandpa possessed multiple gifts, whether it be in the realm of mechanics, metalwork, outdoorsmanship, hunting, or the like. Not only did he take these gifts and use them to the best of his capacity, but he was always eager to share his knowledge with anyone and everyone. Not only did he serve as the committee chairman  and outdoor chairman for my Boy Scout troop for decades, which allowed him to teach young men, myself included, about his love of the wilderness and the outdoors, but he also volunteered with multiple local organizations to help teach children and adults alike about things like antique machines, agricultural tools, railway cars, and so much more. Grandpa was never content to keep his knowledge to himself, and his eagerness to share his talents and wares with the world around him brought him as much joy as it did to those under his tutelage.

3. “Life is good!”

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This was essentially Grandpa’s life motto, so much so that it was actually engraved on his tombstone. It’s no secret that life is challenging, unpredictable, and often unfair. Grandpa was no stranger to any of this, but he did more than the best with what he was given. He embraced every aspect of his life and had an intense appreciation for everything and everyone around him, even if it just meant just sitting in silence and “watching the mountains grow.” If someone were to appreciate life at least half as much as Grandpa did, there’s really only one thing they could bring themselves to say: “Life is good!”

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So there we have it. If this, my sister’s article, and my previous article about him are to be believed, my grandfather had an unparalleled love for life that many young men today should strive to emulate. He was an incredible example of what a good husband, father, grandfather, and great-grandfather should be, and I have no idea where I would be without him. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s post. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, and follow The Young Gentleman’s Guideon Facebook and Instagram. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

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Grandpa and my dad “watching the mountains grow”

Should a Gentleman be Pro-Life?

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So, it should come as no surprise that the pro-life vs. pro-choice argument is VERY controversial and extremely passionate on both sides, but nonetheless, it’s something I’ve been wanting to talk about for a while. This was also inspired by our admin Mary’s article about the March for Life 2020, so be sure to check that out when you’re done here.

So if any of you reading are even remotely involved in politics, you’ve likely come across an argument for or against abortion in some capacity, because like I’ve said before, it is a very hot-button issue that both sides of the political aisle get very passionate about. In the light of certain events, I thought it would be worthwhile to put in my two cents on the issue (despite how many circles on the pro-choice side will argue how men shouldn’t even have an opinion on abortion). So without any further ado, let’s get started.

So, as Mary and I have both pointed out (though Mary may be more upfront about it than me), one of the most important things that a man should do is to stand up for and defend a woman’s honor. However, it’s not just the honor of women that need protecting, it’s the honor and dignity of every man, woman, and child deserving of it, and if you ask me, no one is more deserving of it than a child who has committed literally no crime or injustice; not against his or herself, and certainly not against the mother. Speaking of which, it’s important to be compassionate towards the mother as well as the child. It’s important to remember that any expectant mother, whether the pregnancy is planned or not, is in an extremely vulnerable position and will be seeking out the best situation possible for herself and her child. As such, any gentleman worth his salt should be doing whatever possible to provide that for her, whether said woman is his sister, cousin, mother, aunt, or especially his spouse. Nowhere on the list should that include taking the life of an innocent unborn child. Even if that child was conceived through such things as rape or incest, simply ending its life won’t magically undo what happened. If nothing else, all it does is create another trauma on top of the assault responsible for her situation in the first place. Not only that, but there’s no reason why the child should have to pay the price for the sins of the father; punish the one responsible for putting the woman in such a situation, not the the mother and especially not the child. Life itself is nothing short of a miracle, and men as well as women should be doing everything in their power to defend it, no matter how big or small. In the words of the incomparable Dr. Seuss, “A person’s a person, no matter how small.”

So based on all of that, should a gentleman be pro-life? If a gentleman want to properly fulfill his duty of defending the honor and dignity of not just women, children, and life itself, then yes, he absolutely should. If you’d like to learn more about the pro-life cause from those who have much greater authority to speak about it than I do, I’ll leave some links to some the biggest pro-life advocacy groups and what they stand for. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Pro-Life Advocacy Groups:

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Human Defense Initiative

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Life News

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Courtship and Marriage

Good afternoon, Ladies! This is Mary from The Young Lady’s Journal. Today’s topic is kind of a hard one to tackle considering the world’s ideas concerning it, but I’ll give it my best shot.

According to the Church, there are four (4) stages of courtship. The first is friendship. You should know each other and be able to discern whether the other is a virtuous and honorable person. There should be no consideration of dating if one or the other rushes in too fast, especially physically.

“Love at first sight” is not a thing. There is only lust at first sight. Physical attraction is not enough on which to base a relationship. It’s important to remember that the purpose of courtship is to marry. You shouldn’t even date them if you can’t possibly see yourself happily married to them someday, beyond the physical aspects of marriage.

It’s the man’s job to preserve and defend your honor and virtue. You should avoid being alone together, not because you will do anything, but because people assume you will. And if people assume you will, your honor is at stake. People will view you as a woman of little virtue, whether true or not.

I understand that people’s perception of you may not matter, but if your boyfriend allows others to see you that way, true or not, he’s failed to defend your honor.

The second stage is the actual courtship. If you have a father or a father figure, he should ask his permission to date or court you before he even asks you. He should have a pretty good idea that you will accept. The reason this is important is because your father is responsible for defending and protecting your honor until your marriage. If your father doesn’t view the young man as a man of honor, he has every right to say no to him. I’m not saying your father is always right, but he genuinely wants what is best for you, and if he doesn’t think this man will be good for you, that should be respected. Your father is responsible for the protection of your honor until the day you’re married, then he transfers the responsibility to your husband.

The third stage is the engagement or betrothal. A young man should ask a young woman’s father for her hand. He should be fairly certain that she will say “Yes,” at this point. Once a woman says “Yes,” it should be brought to the pastor. Before marriage, one must be cautious with physical affection. It is acceptable, but you don’t want to lose your dignity. If he’s not working to keep your image honorable, he himself doesn’t have totally honorable intentions toward you. You’re close to marriage, but this is no excuse to allow yourself to slip. You can’t afford it if you want a good married relationship.

The fourth stage of courtship is marriage. Many wouldn’t consider this as a stage of “courtship”, but it absolutely is. It’s still your relationship with one person of the opposite sex, whether your honor is fully his responsibility or your father’s. Once married, a woman has to be willing to submit to the decisions of her husband. This is not to say he owns her, but he is the leader of the team. The man is the head, the woman is the heart. It’s always been that way, and it naturally always will be. We can’t rewrite what God has already written in our nature.

If you don’t want a domineering or immature husband, don’t date a guy who’s not willing to defend your purity.

I’m sorry if this seemed a little rigid or old-fashioned, I’m just stating what my priests have made clear to me.

Good afternoon, and I’ll see you all next time at the Young Lady’s Journal!

Why Motherhood is The Most Important Job

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s article is actually brought to you by Mary, courtesy of her own blog. This one is a sort of counterpart to my article about fatherhood, which you can check out right here. In the meantime, however, be sure to check it out and give love to her blog!

The Young Lady’s Journal

Good afternoon, ladies! This is Mary from The Young Lady’s Journal! Today I’m going to tackle a topic I feel is commonly overlooked by people today. So buckle up, and I hope you enjoy it!

In this day and age, everyone is pushing for “gender equality”, as if we don’t already have it. Not that there isn’t sexism in the workplace, among other settings, but as a general rule, there really isn’t. In fact, there are many professions that are heavily female. But there’s one job in particular that is 100% female, and there’s a counterpart which is 100% male.

Without them, there’s no us. No society. No people.

These jobs are motherhood and fatherhood. Big surprise, right?

But it’s true. Society would cease to exist if mothers and fathers ceased to do their job. That is, conceive, bear, and rear (raise) children.

I would even say that these two…

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