One Sad Result of Capitalism

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s article is sort of going against the grain of what I normally post, but this is something that I’ve been wanting to talk about for a long time, and I feel like this is the best place to do it. Now before I continue, I must address that I actually favor and advocate for free-market capitalism as much as the next guy. It may have its flaws, but I believe it’s a fair and sound economic ideology that has done an inordinate amount of good for the societies where it has been implemented. But as with any good thing, there will be people out there who try to exploit it, and that leads quite nicely into the meat of this article.

As much of a proponent as I am for capitalism, it pains me to say that its implementation in American society has led to a serious degradation and stagnation in the world of music. Of course, anyone who knows me knows that I love music, so it brings me no pleasure to say this. Instead of powerful, emotional, and experimental masterpieces like Gabrieli’s Sacrae Symphoniae, Mozart’s Magic Flute, Debussy’s Clair de Lune, Wagner’s Ring Cycle, and others, we have the repetitive, recycled, uninspired droll of artists like Ariana Grande, Post Malone, and Katy Perry, among others. And I’m not just talking the simple harmonic structures, though that can certainly be a contributing factor. Even with jazz, classic rock, and R&B, as simple as the structures of those styles can be, many artists back in the day were still able to implement some form of experimentation, whether it be in the form of improvisation, instrumental choices, or storytelling through the music and lyrics. Artists like Miles Davis dabbled in and was a pioneer of multiple different jazz styles, Bob Seger told very deep and heartfelt stories through his lyrics, and the members of The Who were able to write a surreal messiah story in the form of Tommy. Nowadays, most modern pop artists seem to just seem to be the masters of mundane. They wrote mundane songs with mundane structures about mundane subjects. So many of today’s modern hits are just songs about subjects that have been done to death; broken relationships, heartbreak, sex, love, or even just everyday life. While there have obviously been countless songs about all these subjects in the past, artists in the past would often use those subjects to tell a deeper story or have a deeper moral. Stevie Wonder’s Isn’t She Lovely was written as a heartwarming ode to his daughter. Bob Seger’s The Fire Inside, for as simple as its chord and harmonic sequence is, is a heartfelt tale about the struggles of finding love and how the pain and memory of love lost never really leave you. Many songs by the Beatles utilized unorthodox chord progressions and key changes that kept listeners interested from start to finish. And of course, there’s the entire treasure trove of classical music with its multitude of stories, emotion, and themes. Nowadays, however, many pop artists are just expected to write simple, repetitive, and mundane songs to please the masses. I don’t entirely blame the artists for this, however. I believe it’s mostly the fault of their producers, which leads me to believe this is the result of capitalism.

One of the core tenets of capitalism is the concept of supply and demand. While the details of both supply and demand are entirely too complex for an article like this, the basics of it is that if there is a high demand for a product, those who own the business will need to continue putting out said product to meet the demand. This is exactly the way the music industry works. These young, marginally talented artists are being picked up by major record labels and music producers just as a means to sell more of their music in order to meet the demand of the people, and as a result, make more and more money. While this kind of business model is perfectly understandable and seems just fine on the surface, it has unfortunately led to a complete stagnation of creativity and experimentation. On top of that, it’s not even important to these producers that artists are even talented, all that’s important to them is that they’re marketable. This had let to not only stagnation in musical creativity, but also on a reliance on lip-syncing and autotuning, meaning the artists who are supposedly playing a singing these songs don’t even need to actually have musical talent. Now, none of this is to say that there is zero musical creativity out there today. There are a number of independent and self-produced artists out there who I’m sure would appreciate as much support as they can get. What bothers is me is that these modern, over-marketed pop artists are what most people are exposed to. It’s what’s played on the radio, in department stores, on TV, and anywhere else that allows it to be heard by the masses. And because it’s so often heard by so many people, it makes them think that music like that is the pinnacle of musical talent, and they’ll never be able to appreciate the genuine talent that many unheard artists, musicians, and composers actually have.

Apologies if this turned into such a downer, this subject just really gets under my skin. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Incels: A Dangerous Ideology

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I would take a stab at talking about a subject that has become more and more prominent on the internet as of late: incels. For the uninitiated, incel is a portmanteau of the words involuntary celibate. It’s an online subculture made up of self-defeating men who are single virgins, but not on  their own accord. They feel entitled to sex with women, and when they don’t attain it, they blame all of their problems and tribulations on things like modern feminism and social justice, or the idea that women today have become shallow and cruel, only choosing from a small pool of attractive men while leaving the rest in the dust. This op-ed from the Washington Post goes into more detail about it, and I will also be using its sources, so be sure to read the whole thing.

Now that you are aware of what an incel is, that leaves this question: is this a bad, or possibly dangerous ideology? The short answer is yes, of course it is. Now, while I myself have my own criticisms against the modern feminist and social justice movements, and I don’t deny that such movements are creating problems within the realms of dating and marriage, I’m not about to blame them in their entirety for the problems within the dating pool. And as a result, I still advocate for my readers to be what you would call  traditional gentleman; be generally stoic, stand up for yourself, keep yourself generally presentable, and simply treat other people like individual human beings who deserve  basic human decency. These things are more than likely to land you a siginifcant other and lead to general happiness in life, even with such rapidly shifting social norms. However, many incels take this the exact opposite way. And just so we’re clear, I don’t mean to direct this at every single man who may have trouble on the flirtation/dating front. I realize that there are simply some men out there who are novices in the way of talking to and dating women, and that’s perfectly fine. I’m simply talking about that small subculture of men who blame those problems on those things I mentioned before, and believe they are entitled to sex or, for all intents and purposes, a girlfriend simply because they want it and think sex will lead to their ultimate happiness. And with social media, online forums, and message boards being as prominent as they are, incels are starting to form self-defeating and self-radicalizing communities that can often be escalated to a dangerous level.

A lot of terrible and misogynistic posts and tweets can, more often than not, be attributed to incels online (just get a load of this subReddit). They’ll often say that women are shallow, or that women don’t actually know what they want. It unfortunately doesn’t stop there however. Many incels take it a step further by having rape fantasies or saying that women brought about their own downfall by advocating for the right to vote! It’s truly a disgustingly backwards mindset, that can be and has been taken to a dangerous. At least a plurality of mass shootings and massacres have also been attributed to some incels, and more often than not, other incels may praise these acts and treat these murderers like heroes. This is the level it has reached. Put simply, most incels have a dangerous and backward mindset, and to anyone reading this who may feel themselves falling down that incel rabbit hole, here’s my advice. I get it, rejection can hurt, and for all I know, maybe it can be the woman’s fault and not yours. However, if you do get rejected and are having trouble with dating and flirtation, use it as a chance to see how you can improve instead of blaming the one who rejected you. Also, and I know that this will be a hard pill to swallow, but there will just be those women who won’t be interested in you. The sooner you’re able to accept that, the better.

I’m sorry if this article got so morbid, there’s simply a lot to unpack when it comes to incels. Just be vigilant, stand up for yourself, and strive to be the best you can be, and you’ll be just fine. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

15 Rules for Gentlemen to Teach Their Sons

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! First off, I want to sincerely apologize for being absent for so long. Finishing up school at SF State was absolutely brutal, but now that I’ve graduated, I should have much more time to put up more articles for you all to enjoy! In any case, a few weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast called Deconstructing the Culture with Elisa Steele. I highly recommend checking it out if you’re interested in political and social commentary from a conservative and Biblical perspective. In her thirty-eighth episode, entitled “Real Men”, Mrs. Steele looks over and debunks a ludicrous list of fifteen things to teach young boys, and for the most part, I have to agree with what she has to say. After going through that list, Mrs. Steele encourages her listeners to send her an email with their own list of what to teach young men, so I decided to do just that. I emailed her fifteen rules for gentlemen to teach their sons, and in this article, I’m going to explain each rule one-by-one. Bear in mind that this article is going to be a bit longer than most of my other articles, but I can almost guarantee you that these will go a long way. So before this article turns into a full-length novel, let’s get started!

1. Step up and be a leader when no one else will

This one really should go without saying. Men by nature should be more eager to take on leadership roles, and there may be those times where someone needs to take charge. Not only does taking on leadership positions allow men to grow in their confidence, but it also allows men to learn more about themselves, which will further prepare them to take on more leadership positions or even be fathers later on down the road.

2. There’s a difference between being a leader and being a dictator

As an extension to rule number 1, this is a very small, yet extremely important distinction to make. While both leaders and dictators will likely be giving orders, a true leader will be out with there those he is commanding, assisting them or even protecting them so they can complete the task at hand. While a dictator will also give orders, he will simply watch over those he is commanding and most of the time, not even be out there to assist them.

3. Be assertive, but don’t be the bad guy

This is yet another extension to the first two rules. A true leader will enforce the rules and commands he gives; if not, he wouldn’t even be doing his job properly. But there is a way to enforce said rules without coming across as the bad guy. The best leader will enforce the rules while making it clear that he is not at all above them. If a leader thinks himself to be above the rules, that’s essentially the first step to a dictatorship.

4. It’s not always shameful to back down from a fight

A lot of times, men are encouraged to engage in fights, whether verbal or physical, as a way to prove their manliness, so to speak. However, there are, more often than not, certain times where engaging in a fight simply isn’t worth it. Whether it’s because there’s no changing the mind of the opposition or simply because there’s no chance of winning, some fights are just not worth getting into, and thus there’s no shame in backing down from them. Of course, figuring out which fights may or may not be worth getting into is all up to every man’s instincts; I can’t be the arbiter of which fights are worth getting into.

5. Never be afraid to ask questions

Most men by default like to feel like they’re in charge and that they don’t need help. Of course, there will simply be those times where a man can’t figure something out, and will need to ask a question or ask for help. This is often an area of shame for many men, myself included, but it really shouldn’t be. Asking questions and asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it should be treated as a sign of humility and being willing to learn.

6. Always ask how you can help

Whenever working on a group project in any capacity, there will almost always be a way to help. However, a man should rarely, if ever, wait for a task to be handed or appointed to them. A man should always be on hand to help, and as such, should always ask how they can help with the task at hand.

7. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in, even in the face of being mocked or dismissed

In today’s political and social climate, this seems more relevant than ever. No matter where they stand on the political spectrum, a man will have opponents. And when a man has opinions, he should be prepared to have them challenged at any point. Thus, he should stand up for what he believes in, and not back down if backed into a corner. This doesn’t mean he should be a “yes man” at any point, but we’ll get to that later.

8. More importantly, stand up for those who are important to you

Though there may be some who try to deny it, every man has at least one person who is important to them. It can be a family member, a friend, or a significant other. If such people are important to a man, that man should stand up for them as well as himself in the case of violence, ridicule, and exploitation. Men by nature are protectors, and not being able to stand up for those who are important to them are simply betraying themselves along with those people.

9. Being a champion bodybuilder doesn’t make you a great man

Don’t misunderstand me. Being physically fit is essential to any man’s health, and being able to lift heavy loads can certainly be an important part of his arsenal. However, a man being able to bench press twice his body weight just to say that he can is in no way correlated to his character. Moreover, it doesn’t really serve any purpose unless he plans to use his strength as a way to help people. As much a man should value his health and physical fitness, physical prowess and good character are in no way correlated.

10. There’s never a right time to get married

This one applies later in life to those who are getting ready to tie the knot. There is, of course, no shame in a man waiting for the right person or waiting until being more financially stable, the but fact of the matter is that there will always be risks going in. The best a man can do is make the best-informed decision at the time. But even as well-informed as that decision may be, the risk will always be there, and there will never be that “perfect time” to get married.

11. Blind faith and loyalty will get you nowhere

This is essentially a follow-up to rule number 7. While it is of course important to have things you believe in and people to look up to, it should never spiral down to the point of blind faith and loyalty. A man should always hold his beliefs and those he looks up to to some amount of scrutiny. As much as a man can look up to a certain political figure, it’s important to remember that they are still human. They make mistakes, especially in things that they say, and they should be called on it. And as far as beliefs go, especially religious, it’s perfectly reasonable for a man to have doubts and questions about them. It’s another sign of humility and willingness to learn. Without that scrutiny and ability to question his own beliefs as well as the beliefs of those he looks up to, a man will simply turn into the stereotype of the “yes man” who can’t think for himself or formulate his own opinions.

12. There’s no shame in loss or failure

There’s simply no way around this. Losing and failing are simply inevitable in life. And while things like losing that soccer game, not getting that certain job, or getting passed up for that promotion can certainly hurt, there’s no shame in that as long as an honest effort was put in. In fact, loss and failure is, more often than not, necessary. It can certainly hurt to lose, but a man should use the pain of his loss as the first step of improvement. If a man loses a soccer game, that should be a sign to put more work into his practices and drills. If a man gets passed up for a job promotion, he should use that lost opportunity as a stepping stone to improve his work ethic and figure out what he’s doing wrong. In the words of hall of fame soccer player Cobi Jones. “The road to victory… is paved with losses.

13. Your virginity and your loss of it should never define you

It essentially seems like a stereotype at this point that high school boys are practically in competition to see who can either get laid first, or get laid the most. And of course, the guy who hasn’t been able to do the horizontal mambo, either because he doesn’t want to, or  just has trouble with the opposite sex, is mocked and ridiculed by his peers. This sets a dangerous precedent for young men. It teaches them that being a virgin is something that he should be ashamed of. However, being a virgin, at least by choice, is nothing to be ashamed of, and certainly not what a man should stake his reputation on. It shows that he has enough respect for himself and his body to save such a hard decision for the best time, most likely when he’s in a committed relationship or married.

14. Do what’s right, not what feels good, as hard of a decision as it may be

It’s no secret that when given the choice, people will often go with what makes them feel good, even if it might not be the overall best choice in the long run. It might feel good to have that leftover piece of cake instead of an apple for breakfast, but it will most likely not be the best for a man’s health in the long run. A man may find it more satisfying to leave work just a minute or two early and put off whatever he was working on until the next day, even though he can easily finish it that day and just spare a few minutes into overtime to finish it. With that kind of attitude, it can lead him to do mediocre work or just the bare minimum for his job requirement, instead of putting that extra initiative in that could possibly get him that promotion. Of course, there may be those times where the right decision and the decision that feels good may overlap, but those situations are very few and far between.  Most of the time, a man may have to sacrifice what feels good for doing something right.

15. The two words that will take you farther in life than anything else: “Thank you.”

As I’ve said in the past, I believe that gratitude is the greatest quality for a man to have, and I still wholeheartedly stand by that. A man who is grateful for the things he’s been given or has earned, as few as they may be, will be a far happier and more productive person. A man who is grateful to his employer will do everything he can to keep his job. A man who is grateful to his family and friends will undoubtedly create a deeper loving connection with them. A grateful man will be satisfied in what he has earned or has been given, and work even harder to achieve more of it, as opposed to an ungrateful man who believes he’s entitled to certain things for no extra work  or effort because he’s unsatisfied with what he has. Essentially, a man should follow this mantra: gratitude leads to satisfaction, satisfaction leads to happiness. Ingratitude leads to entitlement, entitlement leads to bitterness. “Thank you.” Those two small words will take a man farther in life than he could ever realize.

So there it is! Fifteen rules that very gentleman should teach their sons. Apologies for this article being so long, there’s simply a lot of things that every young gentleman should know. Be sure to comment below any other rules you think might be important, or leave any ideas for any future articles In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

 

The Gentleman’s Guide to Online Etiquette

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! It’s honestly surprising that I haven’t written an article about this sooner, but nonetheless, here we are. In today’s ever-growing world of online communication and with how divided people online have become, online civility seems to be a thing of the past at this point. But in any case, I thought this would be a good topic for young men to know, especially in today’s online climate. So today, I’m going to go over four (4) ways to be more civil online, but before I do that, I thought it would be a good idea to explain why a man should be more civil online.

Disclaimer: Most of what I say in this article is inspired by this one from the Art of Manliness, but I am in no way sponsored or endorsed by them. I also want to acknowledge that just in case I get accused of plagiarism.

Now it should come as no surprise that what draws people most to online communication and social media is the sense of anonymity. A lot of times, people can be more anonymous online, making it much easier to say whatever they want without much consequence. And while I’ll elaborate on why that’s not such a good thing a little later, it still doesn’t detract from this fact: a gentleman should always treat other people with the dignity and respect they deserve, regardless of the medium they are communicating through. Whether online or in person, it’s still another person that the gentleman is talking to, they still have feelings. So with that out of the way, let’s move onto the meat of the article.

1. Remember that there are real people on the other side

This is something that a lot of people forget. While the internet can be and is more anonymous, it’s important that there are still actual people on the other side of the screen. Even if people online don’t always see the person they’re engaging with, they’re still people. They have feelings, and a lot of times, words can hurt to them. Granted, words really only have as much power as the individual gives them, but that doesn’t change the fact that words can hurt, whether stated online or in person.

2. Use your real name

In the words of the AoM article, “…if you’re not proud enough of something to have it associated with your real name, then why are you writing it?” There is a lot of truth to this. I also think of another quotation from Ron Swanson in Parks and Recreation, “If you believe something, you sign your name to it.” Now there can be some exceptions and caveats to this, but as a general rule of thumb, people should ask themselves why they’re writing in an alias. Is it for legitimately protecting their privacy, or simply because they don’t what they say to be associated with them?

3. Would you say it to their face?

This is a big follow-up to number 1. Since people often forget that there’s an actual person on the other side of their screen, they tend to disregard this idea and just say what they want to with no regard to what the person on the other side is feeling or thinking. People seriously need to ask themselves this question before posting a comment on someone’s post. If they wouldn’t say it to someone’s face, why even write it online?

4. Don’t say anything at all

At times, this can simply be the best option. Whether it’s because there’s nothing respectful or constructive to be said or there’s no use getting in an argument since neither side is going to change their mind, sometimes just letting go of the phone or the keyboard is the best option for everybody. I myself will admit that I haven’t always taken this advice and have ended up saying things I never actually meant or simply regretted saying. It’s a tricky tightrope to walk, but sometimes not saying anything can be much more constructive than getting into a debate for no good reason.

So there it is! These are just a few more ways a gentleman can be civil online. If you’d like to know more, the Art of Manliness article I have linked above goes into a bit more detail, so I highly encourage anyone reading to go check it out. I hope these tips can help any readers to be a bit more open-minded and level-headed online, since the lines have become so incredibly divided as of late. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

5 Classical Music Pieces that Every Gentleman Should Listen To

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s article is going to be a little different from most of my other articles. Anyone who knows me knows that I love music, which is to be expected since I’m studying the subject at San Francisco State University. As a result, I have developed a huge appreciation of classical music (and just for transparency’s sake, I’m using “classical music” as a blanket term for any music that isn’t rock ‘n roll, rap, R&B, country, pop, or jazz, not music written specifically written in the Classical period of 1730 to 1820). In any case, I thought it would be fun to share some pieces of classical music that would be good for any gentlemen to listen to, whether they’re thought-provoking, a compelling story, or anything in between. So with all of that out of the way, let’s get started!

1. Sacrae Symphoniae (1597, 1615)

Gabrieli

Listen here (apologies to those who don’t have Spotify)

This piece is actually a collection of two major works by Renaissance composer Giovanni Gabrieli (1556-1612), with the latter of the two symphonies being published after his death. The two pieces are a collection of works written for the church, and contain a mix of both vocal and instrumental pieces for the church liturgy. However, the link that I provided up above is of an all-instrumental cover of the Sacrae Symphoniae by the National Brass Ensemble. This piece perfectly showcases everything that defined the music of Gabrieli; his rich and resonant harmonies, and of course, his mastery of antiphony. Such glorious and resonant music can make for an exciting listen for anybody.

2. Siegfried’s Funeral March (1876)

Siegfried's Funeral

Video here

This piece is actually just one very small highlight from Richard Wagner’s (1813-1883) Götterdämmerung, the fourth and final epic music drama from the cycle Der Ring des Nibelungen (The Ring of the Nibelung). This scene in the opera depicts the hero of the story, Siegfried, being killed by one of his companions and being carried off in a solemn funeral procession. This piece has so much going for it that it’s almost impossible to put into words, but I will do my best. The pure, visceral emotion that Wagner is able to get out of the orchestra probably can never be matched. The mix of sorrow, joy, celebration, and remembrance is truly lightning that can only strike once. Anyone looking to hear an epic story about heroism, betrayal, and despair should absolutely give this a listen.

3. Brünnhilde’s Immolation (1876)

Brunnhilde's Immolation

Video here

This is yet another scene from Wagner’s Götterdämmerung. As a matter of fact, it’s the final scene of the entire cycle. In it, Brünnhilde the valkyrie takes one last stand and takes the Ring of Power (yes, Wagner’s Ring Cycle is very similar to Lord of the Rings) with her into a large funeral pyre where the ring can be cleansed of its curse. Afterward, the flame starts consuming the entire world as well as Valhalla, the domain of the gods, and the curtain falls on the Redemption leitmotif as the world is begun anew. This piece serves as a perfect conclusion to the epic tale told by Der Ring des Nibelungen. Whereas before, with Siegfried’s Funeral being about betrayal and sorrow, the opera itself ends with themes of sacrifice, cleansing, and redemption. While these two scenes are nowhere close to telling the entire story of the opera cycle, they serve as a display of its most important themes: betrayal, sorrow, temptation, sacrifice, and redemption. Even if the people listening to this don’t get that same feeling, I guarantee their lives will still be changed by listening to this.

4. Symphony No. 1, “The Titan” in D Major (1899)

Mahler

Video here (apologies for the video delay, the music is still incredible)

Fair warning, these last two pieces are substantially longer than the others, but nonetheless, they are both incredible pieces of music that deserve a lot of love. In any case, Gustav Mahler’s (1860-1911) first symphony is a roller coaster of sound and emotion that is an absolute pleasure to listen to. The third and fourth movements contrast so much with the first two that it often leaves listeners dumbfounded, but I feel like that’s what makes it so fascinating. There are many ways this masterpiece can be interpreted, but the way I see it, it’s about the denial, pain, and disillusionment that comes from love lost or simply being lovesick. The symphony, however, ends on a very joyous note, which many believe symbolizes the elation of finding love again, making this the perfect piece to cheer up a lonely heart. Of course, it also makes a wonderful piece to listen to if any listeners want to listen to something that will put their emotions through a blender.

5. The Planets (1918)

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Video here (feel free to stop at 49:16, as Pluto was not actually composed by Holst and not part of the original suite)

For the final piece on today’s program, we have this seven-movement orchestral suite by Gustav Holst (1874-1934). This piece is interesting in the sense that instead of employing an astronomical approach to the music, Holst instead takes it from an astrological angle, basing each movement off of the planet’s corresponding astrological sign, so Mars is “The Bringer of War”, Venus is “The Bringer of Peace”, Jupiter is “The Bringer of Jollity”, and so on. It’s a wonderful piece that will definitely make the listener feel like they’re travelling through the depths of space. Fun fact, this piece is also the biggest inspiration for John Williams when he was writing the score for Star Wars (see this video if you want to hear more about that), and any listeners who have seen Star Wars will likely hear more than a few similarities to the score. Even with all that in mind, this piece is a gem that I’m sure will take its listeners on a journey through the stars.

So there it is! Classical music really is a beautiful and transcendent art form that truly deserves more recognition than it’s currently getting. To anyone reading, I hope you enjoy listening to these pieces and I hope they take you on a great journey! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Insults That Shouldn’t be Insults

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s article is going to be a little different than a lot of our other articles, but I feel like it’s an important one to talk about. Throughout human history, insults have evolved practically as much as the English language have. However, in today’s society, there are a quite a few insults, especially directed towards boys and young men that really shouldn’t be seen or used as insults. So today, I’ll be going through three (3) insulting words or phrases that should not be taken too seriously.

1. Boy Scout

I’m sure at least one of you reading this has had this hurled your way. A lot of times, when people call someone a “Boy Scout”, they think that the person they’re directing it towards is a just a goody two-shoes yes man who obeys any command given to him simply because he was taught to do so. However, if someone were to look into what the Boy Scouts actually teach and advocate for, they will find a completely different narrative. Yes, they may teach things like respecting authority and generally being a good person, but they also encourage free thinking, standing up for one’s convictions and beliefs, and being on hand to help with any situation, as the Scout Motto and Scout Slogan state, “Be prepared” and “Do a good turn daily. More often than not, if someone calls someone else a Boy Scout as a means of insulting or making fun of them, that person likely doesn’t know what being a Boy Scout actually requires.

2. Virgin

You’ll see or hear this a lot when talking about a man’s masculinity. A lot of times, a man will use “virgin” to insult another man because he’s had little to no experience with women, or because he’s generally antisocial or a “prude” as a lot of people will say. However, the fact of the matter is that a man should feel no shame in being a virgin. Unless they’re what people have started to call “inels”, which I may write an entirely separate article on, a man should never feel ashamed of himself because he’s a virgin. Sure, part of the reason may be that he doesn’t have much experience talking to or interacting with women (see this article here if you want some help with that), but it could also be that he wants to stay a virgin by his own volition, which could be a variety of reasons. But in either case, there’s no shame in that. There’s no reason a man’s self-worth should be in any way tied to whether or not he’s done the deed yet.

3. Nerd/Geek

I’m sure we’ve all heard these before, whether they were directed to us or to someone else. These can also go hand-in-hand with the “virgin” insult because guys often use these insults for the same reasons. They use it to shame a guy who seems more antisocial and chooses to devote more of his time to things like movies, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons. Of course, the images that most of these other men think when thinking of the words “nerd” or “geek” is the dated 80’s stereotype of the antisocial bookworm with the big glasses who does something silly sometimes for no other reason than “he’s a geek”. Today, however, the words nerd and geek can apply to so many different things. Someone can be a movie nerd, a video game nerd, an engineering nerd, or a myriad of other things. However, I’m sure if those men hurling insults at these “nerds” actually knew who they were insulting, they would know that most of them are smart, kind, well-meaning people who just happen to be really passionate about something that most people aren’t familiar with.

So there it is! If there’s anything that should be taken away from this article, I think it’s this. Words can certainly hurt, and they can even alienate, but they only have as much power as a person chooses to give them. A lot of these words and phrases should be attributed to positivity and virtue, but it seems today that because so many people give words so much power, so many innocuous words and phrases can end up ruining someone’s life. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Swing: A True Gentleman’s Music

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! Today, I want to talk about a style of music that sadly is in danger of becoming a lost relic of the past, much like the art of being a gentleman, that being big band swing. Becoming popular in the 1930s and then practically becoming the soundtrack to World War II, this music was, and in many ways, still is a staple of American culture. It was a perfect musical representation of the optimism and freedom that America was known for, and it became a great morale builder for soldiers in the war. In the words of the legendary Glenn Miller, “America means freedom and there’s no expression of freedom quite so sincere as music.” But at this point, you may be asking how this relates to being a gentleman. That has less to do with the music itself and more to do with the attitude and persona surrounding the music. To get the idea of what I’m talking about, take a look at this video.

After watching that video, what did you notice about the guys? I myself noticed that they’re there to have fun, spend time with friends, and just be teenagers. Looking beyond that, just look at how they’re dressed and how they act. The first word that comes to my head is “classy”. They just treat everyone in the scene with respect and dignity, even in the context of a wild party, the women especially. Probably my favorite moment in the scene is when Robert Sean Leonard’s character, Peter, walks up to Tushka Bergen’s character, Evey. Evey asks Peter “How do I look?” and Peter responds “Like gold.” and they start dancing the night away. If you’re asking me, that seems like a pretty classy response. And earlier in the scene, we see a young Christian Bale pull a total class act move and actually ask one of the women in the club if she would like to dance with him. And this is the point I’m getting at; why I consider big band swing true gentleman’s music. This music simply exudes class and dignity, something that all young gentlemen should have. True, while some swing artists like Cab Calloway may have delved into some darker subjects like drug use and mental illness, most swing music, and even a lot of Calloway’s music, if it even had singing and lyrics, was all about very lighthearted things that everyone could enjoy. Subjects like travelling, falling in love, dancing, or simply just spending time with friends. Swing music was and continues to be all about optimism, freedom, and an overall carefree attitude, and it’s very disheartening to me that this once beloved genre of art and pop culture is in danger of dying. I say we bring swing music back into the sunlight again, it’ll be the 20s again in a few years, it’ll fit right in! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, I’ll leave you with some of my favorite swing bands/artists, as well as my favorite songs by those artist so you can check out the class for yourself. This is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Duke Ellington

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It Don’t Mean a Thing (If it Ain’t Got that Swing)

C Jam Blues

In a Sentimental Mood

“Portrait of Louis Armstrong” from The New Orleans Suite

Count Basie

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One O’Clock Jump

I Left my Heart in San Francisco

Wind Machine

Benny Goodman

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Sing, Sing, Sing

Bugle Call Rag

Stompin’ at the Savoy

Glenn Miller

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In The Mood

Moonlight Serenade

Pennsylvania 6-5000

String of Pearls

Little Brown Jug

Louis Prima

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Just a Gigolo (I Ain’t got Nobody)

Pennies From Heaven

Jump, Jive, An’ Wail

Five Months, Two Weeks, Two Days

I Wan’na Be Like You

Big Bad Voodoo Daddy

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Go Daddy-O

Mr. Pinstripe Suit

Jumpin’ Jack

Jump With my Baby

I Wanna Be Like You

2000 Volts

Big Time Operator

I Like It

Save my Soul

Diga Diga Doo

Why Me?

The Brian Setzer Orchestra

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Rock This Town

Jump, Jive, an’ Wail

This Cat’s on a Hot Tin Roof

Sleepwalk

Gettin’ in the Mood

Caravan

Drive Like Lightning (Crash Like Thunder)

Ghost Radio

Rumble in Brighton

Trouble Train

Take the 5th (an adaptation of Beethoven’s Symphony No. 5)

Honey Man (an adaptation of Rimsky-Korsakov’s Flight of the Bumblebee)

Max Winters: a true gentleman in our modern world

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So, it’s been a pretty crazy week for me with 4th of July celebrations and family visiting from out of town. This led me to fall behind a bit in my writing, but I didn’t want to go without an article today, so here we are! This is an interview that I had with A Vintage Athenian a few weeks ago all about being a gentleman in the modern age. It was incredibly fun and a great experience for both of us! In any case, please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

A Vintage Athenian💋

Hello my darlings!

So if you’ve read my post about how to truly be vintage, you must have seen how a man was acting back then. The term “gentleman” is unfortunately pretty much lost nowadays, but I’m proud to say that I have met some true and amazing gentlemen in my life. The one of them was my amazing grandpa, who I didn’t have the chance to meet since he died when I was very little. The other, is my beloved father who’s always there for all of us. The third one is our dear friend Malachi who unfortunately left us some days ago. I’m sure he’s taking care of us from above though and despite his death, he still lives through our memories. I am very sure he inspired many men to become true gentlemen and many women to get in the vintage lifestyle (as he did with…

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Why I Consider Myself “Vintage”

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So, this article is going to be a little different from my other ones, and that’s because I wanted to talk a little bit my personal beliefs and values and how that led me to consider myself “vintage”. For starters, a lot of my ideas for this article come from this one by my dear friend A Vintage Athenian. She and I both believe that being vintage has a lot more to do than just wearing a dress or suit from the 1950s or listening to jazz music. Believe it or not, actually being vintage goes a lot deeper than that, and that’s what I want talk about. Because even though I love things like rockabilly, swing music, and 1950s fashion, it’s the very values and beliefs that I try to teach on this blog that lead me to consider myself vinage. If you aren’t catching my drift yet, keep reading, and hopefully I can make things a but more clear.

The very first thing that Elena lists in her article is that part of being vintage involves proper manners, which may sound weird at first, but in the end, it absolutely makes sense. One of the biggest reasons I started this blog was so I could teach young, up-and-coming gentlemen proper manners, something that is essentially dying in today’s society. And that’s why Elena and I both consider good manners as vintage. Sure, not everyone was like Adam from Blast From the Past, but back in the day, people in general were much more polite. Children were taught respect their parents and especially their elders. Siblings loved and supported each other, friendships were legitimate, and romantic relationships were stronger than they could ever hope to be today, and that actually leads to the biggest reason why I consider myself to be vintage.

I know I might sound like a broken record here, but I was raised with and strongly advocate for traditional family values, and anyone who’s read this past article may see where I’m going like this. By “traditional family values”, I mean children growing up and being raised by two biological parents with those parents living under the same roof, essentially how I was raised. I consider that such a blessing because today, that’s so rare. And that’s the biggest reason I consider myself vintage. If you look back as early as even the 1970s, the familial unit was so much stronger and had much more of an emphasis in society, even more so in the 1960s and 50s, the period which people like Elena and myself consider actually vintage. Back in that time, husbands supported their wives, wives supported their husbands, and both parents supported their children, and as a result, they were all much happier and even more successful. Men were true men, women were true women, and children were true children. And if you’re looking specifically at young gentlemen, those values can help them in spades. Being a brother, a husband, or a father can be some the biggest tests of commitment in any man’s life, and a man who devotes his life to his family can make that himself and his family stronger in every sense of the word.

So there it is. I’m sorry if I wasn’t entirely clear here, but in summary, I consider myself vintage because I try to teach young, up-and-coming gentlemen as well as myself things like proper manners and traditional family values, on top of having a love of things like jazz, rockabilly, and patriotism. Like Elena says, actually being vintage goes a lot further than just liking old music or wearing old-school clothes. It’s honestly very disheartening that these things should even be considered vintage, because in reality, they should still be around today since they just make life better for everyone. But with all of this in mind, if you’d like to at least get a start on adopting that vintage aura, please be sure to check out my friends over at The Vintage Gentlemen! Their store offers classy and rustic items and accessories, like bowties, pocket knives, drinking flasks, watches, and smoking pipes. I got one of their products as a gift for my dad for Father’s Day, and I’ve used a couple of their products, and they’re awesome! So if you’d like to get a start at at least looking vintage, be sure to check them out! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the post, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Gratitude: A Gentleman’s Greatest Quality

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! First of all, my sincerest apologies for not putting anything out for the past few weeks. I was caught in the darkest pits of finals at San Francisco State, but now that school’s out, I should be back to posting regularly for you wonderful readers! With all of that out of that out of the way, let’s get to today’s topic.

For starters, why is gratitude so important? Well, in short, it just makes us happier. Gratitude leads to satisfaction, and satisfaction leads to happiness. Here’s an example of what I mean.

Two men working a decently-paying office job get their paychecks at the end of the week. After getting their checks, one man says to himself “I earned this, this is a testament to a job well done. Maybe if I work harder, I can make a bit more and maybe get a promotion.” However, the other man says “This is all I made? With the amount I’ve done for this company, I clearly deserve more than this.” What’s the difference between the two? The first man was grateful for what he had earned, which made him satisfied with the work he had done, and that will, in turn, make him happier not just at work, but in the rest of his life if he continues that attitude. The second man obviously felt entitled for more money than he earned, which only angered him, and that’s the biggest reason why gratitude is so important. If you take the time to appreciate what you have and what you earn, you’ll get more satisfaction out of them and therefore will be more happy as a result. Whereas an ungrateful will only demand more and be unsatisfied with what they already have. Unfortunately, with today’s increasingly materialistic attitude and increased feelings of victimhood, people in general are leaning more towards the latter.

It’s impossible to deny, people in general (at least in the U.S.) just have an increased idea that they’re victims, and multiple different activist groups will are trying to convince the mass public that they’re victims of patriarchy, white privilege, or any of that nonsense. And it’s very clear to see where this narrative comes from, and that’s ingratitude. Now I am in no way saying that every single person in any of these activist groups acts this way, it’s just that they are the most vocal minority and the ones who get the most attention. In any case, the people who spew this narrative simply refuse to or just simply can’t see how lucky they actually are, and as a result, they are unsatisfied with everything they’ve already been given (it’s practically become a joke that SJWs will never be satisfied). And I’m just going to stop here, since this is becoming much more political than I was planning it to be. In short, just keep in mind this mantra: gratitude leads to satisfaction, satisfaction leads to happiness. Ingratitude leads to entitlement, entitlement leads to anger.

So there it is. Gratitude, in my eyes, is the greatest key to happiness in anyone’s life. To any of you gents reading, ust take a little bit a time to acknowledge what you have and how lucky you are to have such things. If you do that, then I guarantee you that you will be much happier down the road. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share it, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on Facebook and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. Also, keep an eye out for a collaboration between me and my dear friend Elena, the owner of A Vintage Athenian. She’ll be interviewing me for an article on her blog that I’ll reblog here once it’s up. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!