2 More Classical Music Pieces Every Gentleman Should Listen To

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So I’m on a bit of a time crunch for this article, and there is one that I have drafted right now that will require quite a bit more research and will have to go up at a later date. So today, I wanted to write something a bit more simple and lighthearted. This will essentially be an extension of my first article pertaining to this subject, so be sure to check that one out before continuing on. If you’ve already read that first article, then feel free to continue on with this one. This article will highlight just two more pieces of classical music that every gentleman should take the time to listen to, but since there are just two pieces to be highlighted, I will go into a bit more detail about them. So without any more delay, let’s started!

1. Symphony No. 1: “The Lord of the Rings” (1988)

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To start off, we’re actually going to start with the most recently composed piece I’m going to mention on either of these lists. Also, it’s the only one I’ve mentioned so far that was written for a concert band, though one of my all-time favorite recordings of it has it transcribed for a full orchestra. In any case, this piece is a fascinating piece to look at considering the fact that its composer, Johan De Meij (1953-present) actually based the symphony off of the first Lord of the Rings book, The Fellowship of the Ring, and the movements reflect this. The movements break down as follows:

  1. Gandalf (The Wizard)
  2. Lothlórien (The Elevenwood)
  3. Gollum (Sméagol)
  4. Journey Through the Dark (The Mines of Moria & The Bridge of Khazad-Dûm)
  5. Hobbits

As you can see, each movement of the symphony is based on a certain character, setting, or situation from the book, and each movement encapsulates that particular moment perfectly. Gandalf sounds very sage and wise, but also embarks on a frantic journey to research the Ring; Lothlórien is ancient and mysterious, with the instruments mimicking natural forest sounds; Gollum, represented by a soprano saxophone solo, is slimy and conniving, but may still have some good in him as represented by the accompanying orchestra; Journey Through the Dark is long, treacherous, and mysterious, with the showdown with the Balrog near the end being grand and epic; Hobbits have a simple march-like tune as their theme, with a solemn, hymn-like variation of that theme following it, showing the simplicity of the Hobbits’ way of living. It’s even speculated that Howard Shore took at least some inspiration from this symphony when writing the score for the Lord of the Rings films directed by Peter Jackson. It’s hard to deny after listening to the symphony, but whether or not it’s actually true remains up to debate.

2. Symphony No. 5 in D minor (1937)

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Dmitri Shostakovich’s (1906-1975) fifth symphony is one of his most well known and commonly performed symphonies, and for good reason. It’s one of his most emotional and epic works, but what makes it even more fascinating is its place in both musical and political history. Shostakovich wrote most of his music in the 1930s and 1940s, when Joseph Stalin had completely tightened his grip on Soviet Russia. As a result of the musical tastes of Stalin and other Communist Party members, the music of many modernist composers like Shostakovich was being passed off as niche and avant garde, and composers at the time were advised to write music that stuck more to traditional musical standards as a way to make it more accessible to the public. After a scathing editorial about Shostakovich’s music was published in Pravda, the official newspaper of the Soviet Union, Shostakovich began work on his fifth symphony. After its premiere in 1937, the symphony supposedly received an ovation lasting over 30 minutes, and very well could have the piece of music that saved Shostakovich’s life (all of this information and more can be found in this video by Odd Quartet on YouTube). Though there are certainly elements of Shostakovich’s modernist practices throughout the symphony, it was very well-received by the public as well as Communist Party leaders, with many stating that the symphony was Shostakovich quelling his modernist tendencies to make his music more accessible. This piece is worthy to listen to simply as a lesson in musical and political history, but I promise that you will get a lot more out of it than that.

So there we have it! Apologies if this list was substantially shorter than my last article on the subject, but like I said, I was on a bit of a time crunch for this one. Let me know what you think of these pieces by leaving a comment, and if there are any other pieces that you think are worthy of mentioning, be sure to let me know! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Stop Using “Virgin” as an Insult

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s topic is may be a bit more risqué than most of my other articles, so any of you younger readers may want to skip over this one; I hope you’ll come back for the next article. In any case, I want to get into something that has turned into quite a pervasive part of that average male lexicon: shaming other men for being virgins. However, as you may have guessed by the title, shaming another man for being a virgin is in no way a good thing, and it may even set a dangerous precedent for young men. Allow me to explain why.

Put simply, shaming men for being virgins is in no way a good thing because there’s simply no shame in being a virgin. A man having standards and saving the beauty of sex for the right time or person has nothing to be ashamed of. Contrary to popular belief, most people who are strong advocates for abstinence have that mindset not because they’re afraid of sex, or “prudes” as they may be called. As a matter of fact, many of those people, including myself, hold the beauty of sex to such a high standard that they don’t want to give it away at the first chance just to fulfill some arbitrary standard set up for them. This is in stark contrast to how society, the education system, and popular media talk about sex. The way that sex is taught and portrayed in these contexts, (not all the time, but often enough to the point where I even have to bring it up) it completely removes all standards that sex may have had. As a result, people, especially men, are being taught that they can and should have as much sex as they please, and by extension, it’s taught men that they should stake their entire reputation on whether or not they’ve done the deed. It’s set a dangerous precedent for men to place all of their value on their virginity, when in reality, it shouldn’t matter at all. That is ultimately the root of the problem. “Virgin” shouldn’t be used as an insult because it shouldn’t really matter, therefore, there shouldn’t feel any shame for men being virgins. More often than not, men with this mindset just hold themselves to at least some kind of standard and believe that the best way to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies is to simply wait for the right time and person.

In summary, using “virgin” as an insult is in no way a good thing simply because it doesn’t matter and there’s no reason for a man to be ashamed of being a virgin, despite a multitude of things telling him that he should be. Using “virgin” so derogatorily sets a dangerous precedent for men that shames them into dropping any standards that they  may have had for the sake of hedonism and impressing their peers. Sorry if that got so bleak, this is just something that particularly speaks to me. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Love Cannot be Forced

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I’d take a stab at something that I personally have been struggling with lately. Also, I feel like this is something that’s important for any up-and-coming gentleman to hear, whether they’re just getting into the dating scene or have been involved in it for ten years, or even more. The most important thing to remember about love and dating is this: it cannot be forced, it has to happen naturally. Let me explain what I mean by that.

Of course, whenever you’re looking to date somebody, it’s important to be upfront with them about your intentions and what you’re looking for out of your interaction, I’m not denying that. What I mean when I say that love can’t be forced is that it’s important to realize that wanting to be romantic with someone after just meeting them will, more often than not, just end with nothing but heartbreak, likely on both sides. A relationship needs to develop naturally over time. You won’t just meet someone and then instantly enter into a relationship with them; that’s just not how it works. Of course, that’s not to say that you might instantly click with someone or experience love at first sight, because I am a firm believer that those two things can happen. But even in those cases, it’s important that you spend more time with that certain lady. It simply allows for the two of you to develop a more genuine connection. And with all that in mind, this actually leads very nicely into my next point.

On top of being patient and letting a relationship develop naturally over time, another important thing to keep in mind is that it might not be the best idea to be actively seeking out a relationship. Just like letting the relationship develop naturally over time, it is better most of the time for the way you meet to be very organic as well. It could be something like meeting a girl who you share a class with, meeting a girl through work, or maybe meeting her through a church activity. There’s a variety of ways that this can happen. Just so you don’t misunderstand me, while it is important to not actively seek out a relationship, it’s also just as important to just be open to the possibility of one happening. All it takes is some common sense as well as a decent ability to pick up signals (something that I admittedly need to improve about myself).

So there it is! Hopefully this article was able to help any of you gents reading who may be having some trouble in you love lives. It’s certainly something that has opened my eyes and completely change my perspective on dating in general. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Be Assertive, don’t be the Bad Guy

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s article is going to be another expansion on one of my 15 Rules to Teach your Sons (I imagine there will more than a few more of these in the future since I feel like I can get a lot more material out of that list). In any case, this article is going to talk about one of the most effective ways to be a good leader. This will more clearly explain the phrase, “be assertive, but don’t be the bad guy.” This was always something I heard from my dad while I was the Senior Patrol Leader with my Boy Scout troop, and it’s something that’s stuck with me to this day. So today, I’m going to elaborate more on what that phrase means and how to properly apply it to any leadership position any of you reading may hold in your life.

To start, it’s important to understand what this statement really means. But in all honesty, it’s pretty simple; it means exactly what it sounds like. As a leader, it’s important to be assertive and enforce the rules, but it’s equally as important to have those under his tutelage respect and look up to him. Any team, class, or anything else with a leader who can do this effectively can get so much more out of their efforts than one whose leader doesn’t have his comrades respect him. It’s essentially a two-way street. If the team respects the leader, the leader will respect his team. This will lead to a better and more effective performance from the team as whole.

Now that we’ve gone over what the statement actually means, let’s move onto what I’m sure most of you came to see: how to actually employ this statement to your own leadership position. Now, there are quite a few different ways this strategy can be utilized, but I believe the simplest and most effective way to do so is exactly the same way I described it in my 15 Rules article. That is, a leader should clearly outline the rules to his teammates and enforce them, but he should make it clear that he, the leader, is not at all above them. A true leader doesn’t view himself as superior or in any way above the rest of the team, he is simply another member of said team. If a leader simply does nothing but give commands and then sits back while the team does all the work, then he is no longer a leader, he is a dictator. As such, those under his command will soon come to resent him, which results in the exact opposite outcome of what I outlined above. So in short, while it is important to outline and enforce the rules, a true leader is not above said rules and in no way elevates himself above the other members of the team.

So there it is! I hope this gave you a bit more clarity on what I was trying to say in my original 15 Rules list. This was something that has stuck with me and helped me out in numerous situations throughout my life, and I think it will be a huge help to those of you reading this. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

The Necessity of Failure

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! If you read my last article, you would know that one of the rules I put on that list is that there’s no shame in loss or failure. So for today’s article, I thought I would expand on that. Without any further delay, let’s get started!

To start off, it’s important to know this sobering fact: loss and failure are simply a part of life. Sometimes, it’s just not possible for things to always go the way you want them to. Whether it’s a sporting event, an audition, a job prospect, or anything of the sort, it’s simply not possible to win a hundred percent of the time. But of course, in today’s day and age, where you’ll be rewarded just for showing up, that sting of failure is being seriously downplayed. What people today seem to be forgetting is that “The road to victory… is paved with losses.” This is what makes losing so important.

There are two things you can do if you lose or fail. You can wallow in pity and shame, which is reasonably understandable, or you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and use that loss as a way to improve. If you lose a sporting event, that makes for a perfect opportunity for you and your team to review your game plan and see where it went wrong. If you don’t get that part you were looking for after your audition, it’s a good chance to improve your practice techniques and pinpoint what exactly went wrong. If you get passed up for that certain job you were looking for, you can use it as a chance to change things on your resume, switch up your interview strategy, or simply look for another job that properly utilizes your skill set. Yes, failure can hurt, losing can sting like nothing else. But being praised for “doing your best” and simply being awarded for participating is no way to get ahead. It doesn’t teach competitiveness, ambition, or perseverance. All it does is glorify complacency, and teach legions of people that as long as you show up, that’s enough. That isn’t how the world should work. People need to be taught that even though it may hurt to fail, it’s necessary to do so, since it makes those successes much sweeter and much more rewarding.

Apologies if that sounded a bit too harsh and direct, there are just certain topics that really speak to me, and this is one of those topics. If nothing else, I hope this gave those of you reading at least a little bit of a perspective shift to show that there is no shame in loss or failure.In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

One Sad Result of Capitalism

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today’s article is sort of going against the grain of what I normally post, but this is something that I’ve been wanting to talk about for a long time, and I feel like this is the best place to do it. Now before I continue, I must address that I actually favor and advocate for free-market capitalism as much as the next guy. It may have its flaws, but I believe it’s a fair and sound economic ideology that has done an inordinate amount of good for the societies where it has been implemented. But as with any good thing, there will be people out there who try to exploit it, and that leads quite nicely into the meat of this article.

As much of a proponent as I am for capitalism, it pains me to say that its implementation in American society has led to a serious degradation and stagnation in the world of music. Of course, anyone who knows me knows that I love music, so it brings me no pleasure to say this. Instead of powerful, emotional, and experimental masterpieces like Gabrieli’s Sacrae Symphoniae, Mozart’s Magic Flute, Debussy’s Clair de Lune, Wagner’s Ring Cycle, and others, we have the repetitive, recycled, uninspired droll of artists like Ariana Grande, Post Malone, and Katy Perry, among others. And I’m not just talking the simple harmonic structures, though that can certainly be a contributing factor. Even with jazz, classic rock, and R&B, as simple as the structures of those styles can be, many artists back in the day were still able to implement some form of experimentation, whether it be in the form of improvisation, instrumental choices, or storytelling through the music and lyrics. Artists like Miles Davis dabbled in and was a pioneer of multiple different jazz styles, Bob Seger told very deep and heartfelt stories through his lyrics, and the members of The Who were able to write a surreal messiah story in the form of Tommy. Nowadays, most modern pop artists seem to just seem to be the masters of mundane. They wrote mundane songs with mundane structures about mundane subjects. So many of today’s modern hits are just songs about subjects that have been done to death; broken relationships, heartbreak, sex, love, or even just everyday life. While there have obviously been countless songs about all these subjects in the past, artists in the past would often use those subjects to tell a deeper story or have a deeper moral. Stevie Wonder’s Isn’t She Lovely was written as a heartwarming ode to his daughter. Bob Seger’s The Fire Inside, for as simple as its chord and harmonic sequence is, is a heartfelt tale about the struggles of finding love and how the pain and memory of love lost never really leave you. Many songs by the Beatles utilized unorthodox chord progressions and key changes that kept listeners interested from start to finish. And of course, there’s the entire treasure trove of classical music with its multitude of stories, emotion, and themes. Nowadays, however, many pop artists are just expected to write simple, repetitive, and mundane songs to please the masses. I don’t entirely blame the artists for this, however. I believe it’s mostly the fault of their producers, which leads me to believe this is the result of capitalism.

One of the core tenets of capitalism is the concept of supply and demand. While the details of both supply and demand are entirely too complex for an article like this, the basics of it is that if there is a high demand for a product, those who own the business will need to continue putting out said product to meet the demand. This is exactly the way the music industry works. These young, marginally talented artists are being picked up by major record labels and music producers just as a means to sell more of their music in order to meet the demand of the people, and as a result, make more and more money. While this kind of business model is perfectly understandable and seems just fine on the surface, it has unfortunately led to a complete stagnation of creativity and experimentation. On top of that, it’s not even important to these producers that artists are even talented, all that’s important to them is that they’re marketable. This had let to not only stagnation in musical creativity, but also on a reliance on lip-syncing and autotuning, meaning the artists who are supposedly playing a singing these songs don’t even need to actually have musical talent. Now, none of this is to say that there is zero musical creativity out there today. There are a number of independent and self-produced artists out there who I’m sure would appreciate as much support as they can get. What bothers is me is that these modern, over-marketed pop artists are what most people are exposed to. It’s what’s played on the radio, in department stores, on TV, and anywhere else that allows it to be heard by the masses. And because it’s so often heard by so many people, it makes them think that music like that is the pinnacle of musical talent, and they’ll never be able to appreciate the genuine talent that many unheard artists, musicians, and composers actually have.

Apologies if this turned into such a downer, this subject just really gets under my skin. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

Incels: A Dangerous Ideology

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from the Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So for today’s article, I thought I would take a stab at talking about a subject that has become more and more prominent on the internet as of late: incels. For the uninitiated, incel is a portmanteau of the words involuntary celibate. It’s an online subculture made up of self-defeating men who are single virgins, but not on  their own accord. They feel entitled to sex with women, and when they don’t attain it, they blame all of their problems and tribulations on things like modern feminism and social justice, or the idea that women today have become shallow and cruel, only choosing from a small pool of attractive men while leaving the rest in the dust. This op-ed from the Washington Post goes into more detail about it, and I will also be using its sources, so be sure to read the whole thing.

Now that you are aware of what an incel is, that leaves this question: is this a bad, or possibly dangerous ideology? The short answer is yes, of course it is. Now, while I myself have my own criticisms against the modern feminist and social justice movements, and I don’t deny that such movements are creating problems within the realms of dating and marriage, I’m not about to blame them in their entirety for the problems within the dating pool. And as a result, I still advocate for my readers to be what you would call  traditional gentleman; be generally stoic, stand up for yourself, keep yourself generally presentable, and simply treat other people like individual human beings who deserve  basic human decency. These things are more than likely to land you a siginifcant other and lead to general happiness in life, even with such rapidly shifting social norms. However, many incels take this the exact opposite way. And just so we’re clear, I don’t mean to direct this at every single man who may have trouble on the flirtation/dating front. I realize that there are simply some men out there who are novices in the way of talking to and dating women, and that’s perfectly fine. I’m simply talking about that small subculture of men who blame those problems on those things I mentioned before, and believe they are entitled to sex or, for all intents and purposes, a girlfriend simply because they want it and think sex will lead to their ultimate happiness. And with social media, online forums, and message boards being as prominent as they are, incels are starting to form self-defeating and self-radicalizing communities that can often be escalated to a dangerous level.

A lot of terrible and misogynistic posts and tweets can, more often than not, be attributed to incels online (just get a load of this subReddit). They’ll often say that women are shallow, or that women don’t actually know what they want. It unfortunately doesn’t stop there however. Many incels take it a step further by having rape fantasies or saying that women brought about their own downfall by advocating for the right to vote! It’s truly a disgustingly backwards mindset, that can be and has been taken to a dangerous. At least a plurality of mass shootings and massacres have also been attributed to some incels, and more often than not, other incels may praise these acts and treat these murderers like heroes. This is the level it has reached. Put simply, most incels have a dangerous and backward mindset, and to anyone reading this who may feel themselves falling down that incel rabbit hole, here’s my advice. I get it, rejection can hurt, and for all I know, maybe it can be the woman’s fault and not yours. However, if you do get rejected and are having trouble with dating and flirtation, use it as a chance to see how you can improve instead of blaming the one who rejected you. Also, and I know that this will be a hard pill to swallow, but there will just be those women who won’t be interested in you. The sooner you’re able to accept that, the better.

I’m sorry if this article got so morbid, there’s simply a lot to unpack when it comes to incels. Just be vigilant, stand up for yourself, and strive to be the best you can be, and you’ll be just fine. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

15 Rules for Gentlemen to Teach Their Sons

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! First off, I want to sincerely apologize for being absent for so long. Finishing up school at SF State was absolutely brutal, but now that I’ve graduated, I should have much more time to put up more articles for you all to enjoy! In any case, a few weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast called Deconstructing the Culture with Elisa Steele. I highly recommend checking it out if you’re interested in political and social commentary from a conservative and Biblical perspective. In her thirty-eighth episode, entitled “Real Men”, Mrs. Steele looks over and debunks a ludicrous list of fifteen things to teach young boys, and for the most part, I have to agree with what she has to say. After going through that list, Mrs. Steele encourages her listeners to send her an email with their own list of what to teach young men, so I decided to do just that. I emailed her fifteen rules for gentlemen to teach their sons, and in this article, I’m going to explain each rule one-by-one. Bear in mind that this article is going to be a bit longer than most of my other articles, but I can almost guarantee you that these will go a long way. So before this article turns into a full-length novel, let’s get started!

1. Step up and be a leader when no one else will

This one really should go without saying. Men by nature should be more eager to take on leadership roles, and there may be those times where someone needs to take charge. Not only does taking on leadership positions allow men to grow in their confidence, but it also allows men to learn more about themselves, which will further prepare them to take on more leadership positions or even be fathers later on down the road.

2. There’s a difference between being a leader and being a dictator

As an extension to rule number 1, this is a very small, yet extremely important distinction to make. While both leaders and dictators will likely be giving orders, a true leader will be out with there those he is commanding, assisting them or even protecting them so they can complete the task at hand. While a dictator will also give orders, he will simply watch over those he is commanding and most of the time, not even be out there to assist them.

3. Be assertive, but don’t be the bad guy

This is yet another extension to the first two rules. A true leader will enforce the rules and commands he gives; if not, he wouldn’t even be doing his job properly. But there is a way to enforce said rules without coming across as the bad guy. The best leader will enforce the rules while making it clear that he is not at all above them. If a leader thinks himself to be above the rules, that’s essentially the first step to a dictatorship.

4. It’s not always shameful to back down from a fight

A lot of times, men are encouraged to engage in fights, whether verbal or physical, as a way to prove their manliness, so to speak. However, there are, more often than not, certain times where engaging in a fight simply isn’t worth it. Whether it’s because there’s no changing the mind of the opposition or simply because there’s no chance of winning, some fights are just not worth getting into, and thus there’s no shame in backing down from them. Of course, figuring out which fights may or may not be worth getting into is all up to every man’s instincts; I can’t be the arbiter of which fights are worth getting into.

5. Never be afraid to ask questions

Most men by default like to feel like they’re in charge and that they don’t need help. Of course, there will simply be those times where a man can’t figure something out, and will need to ask a question or ask for help. This is often an area of shame for many men, myself included, but it really shouldn’t be. Asking questions and asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it should be treated as a sign of humility and being willing to learn.

6. Always ask how you can help

Whenever working on a group project in any capacity, there will almost always be a way to help. However, a man should rarely, if ever, wait for a task to be handed or appointed to them. A man should always be on hand to help, and as such, should always ask how they can help with the task at hand.

7. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in, even in the face of being mocked or dismissed

In today’s political and social climate, this seems more relevant than ever. No matter where they stand on the political spectrum, a man will have opponents. And when a man has opinions, he should be prepared to have them challenged at any point. Thus, he should stand up for what he believes in, and not back down if backed into a corner. This doesn’t mean he should be a “yes man” at any point, but we’ll get to that later.

8. More importantly, stand up for those who are important to you

Though there may be some who try to deny it, every man has at least one person who is important to them. It can be a family member, a friend, or a significant other. If such people are important to a man, that man should stand up for them as well as himself in the case of violence, ridicule, and exploitation. Men by nature are protectors, and not being able to stand up for those who are important to them are simply betraying themselves along with those people.

9. Being a champion bodybuilder doesn’t make you a great man

Don’t misunderstand me. Being physically fit is essential to any man’s health, and being able to lift heavy loads can certainly be an important part of his arsenal. However, a man being able to bench press twice his body weight just to say that he can is in no way correlated to his character. Moreover, it doesn’t really serve any purpose unless he plans to use his strength as a way to help people. As much a man should value his health and physical fitness, physical prowess and good character are in no way correlated.

10. There’s never a right time to get married

This one applies later in life to those who are getting ready to tie the knot. There is, of course, no shame in a man waiting for the right person or waiting until being more financially stable, the but fact of the matter is that there will always be risks going in. The best a man can do is make the best-informed decision at the time. But even as well-informed as that decision may be, the risk will always be there, and there will never be that “perfect time” to get married.

11. Blind faith and loyalty will get you nowhere

This is essentially a follow-up to rule number 7. While it is of course important to have things you believe in and people to look up to, it should never spiral down to the point of blind faith and loyalty. A man should always hold his beliefs and those he looks up to to some amount of scrutiny. As much as a man can look up to a certain political figure, it’s important to remember that they are still human. They make mistakes, especially in things that they say, and they should be called on it. And as far as beliefs go, especially religious, it’s perfectly reasonable for a man to have doubts and questions about them. It’s another sign of humility and willingness to learn. Without that scrutiny and ability to question his own beliefs as well as the beliefs of those he looks up to, a man will simply turn into the stereotype of the “yes man” who can’t think for himself or formulate his own opinions.

12. There’s no shame in loss or failure

There’s simply no way around this. Losing and failing are simply inevitable in life. And while things like losing that soccer game, not getting that certain job, or getting passed up for that promotion can certainly hurt, there’s no shame in that as long as an honest effort was put in. In fact, loss and failure is, more often than not, necessary. It can certainly hurt to lose, but a man should use the pain of his loss as the first step of improvement. If a man loses a soccer game, that should be a sign to put more work into his practices and drills. If a man gets passed up for a job promotion, he should use that lost opportunity as a stepping stone to improve his work ethic and figure out what he’s doing wrong. In the words of hall of fame soccer player Cobi Jones. “The road to victory… is paved with losses.

13. Your virginity and your loss of it should never define you

It essentially seems like a stereotype at this point that high school boys are practically in competition to see who can either get laid first, or get laid the most. And of course, the guy who hasn’t been able to do the horizontal mambo, either because he doesn’t want to, or  just has trouble with the opposite sex, is mocked and ridiculed by his peers. This sets a dangerous precedent for young men. It teaches them that being a virgin is something that he should be ashamed of. However, being a virgin, at least by choice, is nothing to be ashamed of, and certainly not what a man should stake his reputation on. It shows that he has enough respect for himself and his body to save such a hard decision for the best time, most likely when he’s in a committed relationship or married.

14. Do what’s right, not what feels good, as hard of a decision as it may be

It’s no secret that when given the choice, people will often go with what makes them feel good, even if it might not be the overall best choice in the long run. It might feel good to have that leftover piece of cake instead of an apple for breakfast, but it will most likely not be the best for a man’s health in the long run. A man may find it more satisfying to leave work just a minute or two early and put off whatever he was working on until the next day, even though he can easily finish it that day and just spare a few minutes into overtime to finish it. With that kind of attitude, it can lead him to do mediocre work or just the bare minimum for his job requirement, instead of putting that extra initiative in that could possibly get him that promotion. Of course, there may be those times where the right decision and the decision that feels good may overlap, but those situations are very few and far between.  Most of the time, a man may have to sacrifice what feels good for doing something right.

15. The two words that will take you farther in life than anything else: “Thank you.”

As I’ve said in the past, I believe that gratitude is the greatest quality for a man to have, and I still wholeheartedly stand by that. A man who is grateful for the things he’s been given or has earned, as few as they may be, will be a far happier and more productive person. A man who is grateful to his employer will do everything he can to keep his job. A man who is grateful to his family and friends will undoubtedly create a deeper loving connection with them. A grateful man will be satisfied in what he has earned or has been given, and work even harder to achieve more of it, as opposed to an ungrateful man who believes he’s entitled to certain things for no extra work  or effort because he’s unsatisfied with what he has. Essentially, a man should follow this mantra: gratitude leads to satisfaction, satisfaction leads to happiness. Ingratitude leads to entitlement, entitlement leads to bitterness. “Thank you.” Those two small words will take a man farther in life than he could ever realize.

So there it is! Fifteen rules that very gentleman should teach their sons. Apologies for this article being so long, there’s simply a lot of things that every young gentleman should know. Be sure to comment below any other rules you think might be important, or leave any ideas for any future articles In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

 

The Gentleman’s Guide to Card Games

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So when I was growing up, my family loved playing card games, and they still enjoy playing cards to this day. As a result, I learned how to play a handful (no pun intended) of different card games that I thought would be good for any young gentleman to know. So today, I’m  going to go over some of my personal favorite card games and their basic rules so you can play them yourself at a family game night, a night in with the guys, or anything else. So without any further delay, let’s get started!

1. Rummy

This one is a particular favorite among my family. The object of Rummy is to essentially empty your hand before the other players do by placing down 3’s of a Kind or straights involving at least three sequential cards of the same suit on the table. If only two players are playing, each player starts with ten cards. If three or four are playing, every player starts with seven cards, and with five or six players, everyone starts with six cards. After the cards are dealt, the rest of the deck is set face-down on the center of the table and the top card is flipped face-up to start the discard pile, beginning the game. Players starting to the left of the dealer can choose to take the top card off of the deck, take a card out of the discard pile, or put down any melds (3’s of a Kind) or straights they already have. Every player must put a card into the discard pile in order to end their turn. As the game continues, players that have already put down their own melds or straights can then place down cards that continue another player’s set. For example, if one player notices that his opponent has as three 7’s on the table, he can choose to set down the fourth seven if he so chooses. The round ends when the first player “goes out” by setting down his last card without putting a card into the discard pile. Once the round is over, the scores are added up and the game continues for as long as the players please. Now, the rules for different aspects of the game like point values, taking multiple cards from the discard pile, and other things can vary, so it’s important to discuss such things with the dealer before starting the game.

2. BS

This was a particular favorite of mine when I was younger. This is a fun and simple one that can be a good choice for those who don’t have much experience with card games. The object of the game, like Rummy, is to get rid of all of your cards before your opponents. The game begins with the dealer dealing out the cards one at a time until there are no cards left in the deck. Whoever has the Ace of Spades begins the game. How it works is that the player with the Ace of Spades sets it down at the center of the table along with any other Aces they have, and state what they are setting down (so if the player has two aces, they would say “two aces” when they set their cards down). The game continues with the cards increasing in numerical values with Aces representing 1. The catch is, that if a player doesn’t have the specific card they’re supposed set down, they still have to set down cards, but have to lie about what they’re setting down (for example, they would set down a card and say “one five”, but the actual card is anything other than a five). On top of that, any player can call “BS” on another player if they think the last card that was set down is false. If the player who called “BS” is right and the card is indeed false, then the player who set down the last card then picks up all the cards currently in the center of the table. However, if the player who called “BS” is wrong, and the card is actually what the player claims it is, then the player who called it takes all the cards. The game continues around the table until one player runs out of cards.

3. Blackjack

This one is a relatively simple one that can be a decent introduction to the thrills of gambling (in all seriousness, please gamble responsibly. Know your limits and don’t bet any more money than you’re willing to lose). The object of Blackjack is fairly straightforward. Have your hand equal twenty-one or lower while also having a greater value than the dealer’s hand. If your hand is greater than twenty-one, you “bust”, meaning you forfeit your entire bet, a rule which also applies to the dealer. To begin the game, the dealer places to cards in front of him, one face up, the other face down, and then gives two cards to the other player. Once the round begins, the player can choose to either hit or stand (there are other options in higher-stakes games, but those won’t be addressed here). To hit means to request another card from the dealer. The player can hit as many times as they like, but if at any time their hand goes over twenty-one, they bust. If the player chooses to stand, they are satisfied with their hand, and will have no other cards given to them. Once the player chosen to stand, their hand is revealed, as well as the dealer’s face-down card. Whichever player gets the highest value closest to twenty-one without going over wins, and a new round begins. The values of each card break down as follows: Kings, Queens, and Jacks (face cards) are worth ten, Aces can be worth either one or eleven, depending on which will be more advantageous for the player, and numbered cards are worth their number.

4. Poker

Of course, Poker is the quintessential card game that is recognizable all over the world. Now, there are multiple ways to play poker, but the ultimate goal across most of those different forms is to get the highest five-card hand, so for this entry, I’m going to list some of the most popular terms in Poker as well as the hand hierarchy  to understand what you’ll be doing and what to be aiming for when you sit down to start placing bets.

Popular/Universal Terms

  • Call – match the previous bet.
  • Raise – to bet a greater amount than the previous bet; some may call this “upping the ante”.
  • Check – hold off on betting or folding to see what the other players will do. The betting round then ends on the last player who checked.
  • All-in – Putting any chips you have left. into the pot
  • Fold – to forfeit your hand, keeping you from placing any further bets.
  • Pot – total amount of money that has been put on the table.

Hand Hierarchy

Here are the different hands in Poker, listed from best to worst

  • Royal Flush – Ace, King, Queen, Jack, and ten all of the same suit
  • Straight Flush – Any five cards of the same suit in numerical order
  • Four of a Kind – Four cards with the same number
  • Full House – Three cards with the same number and two cards with  the saem number
  • Flush – Any five cards of the same suit
  • Straight – Any five cards in numerical order, regardless of suit
  • Three of a Kind – Three cards with the same number
  • Two Pair – Two cards with with the same number and another two cards with the same number
  • Pair – Two cards with the same number

In the event of a tie, the higher numerical value takes precedence. For example, a pair of two tens will beat two threes.

So there we have it! These are just a few card games you can start incorporating into your game nights or hangouts! Card games can be wonderful way to socialize since they, more often than not, require the participants to interact with each other in way that’s a bit more serious and personal than a lot of other games. In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!

 

4 Role Models for Young Gentlemen

Afternoon gents, it’s Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide here! So today, I’m going to get a bit more broad and general than most of my other articles, because today I’m going to talk about four (4) gentlemen who I believe are the best role models for any young gentlemen to look up to. These can be celebrities, historical figures, other online creators like myself, or anything in between. I thought this would be a fun list to make because these are, more or less, the gentlemen who have inspired me the most, and I thought they would help inspire you young gents reading this. So without any further ado, let’s get started!

1. Brett McKay

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This man is actually the reason I’m even writing this blog at all! Brett McKay is the founder and editor-in-chief of the Art of Manliness, the largest independent men’s lifestyle magazine on the web. He was the first to truly introduce me to the men’s lifestyle that I write about today thanks to the book my godmother got me when I was in high school that was actually a giant compilation of a bunch of his articles. In any case, this guy has a lot of stuff to say about being a gentleman, from fashion to etiquette and beyond. He has the answer to pretty much any question that a young gentleman may have, so please be sure to check him out!

2. Theodore Roosevelt

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Our nation’s 26th president of course had to be on the list! I actually wrote an article that goes into much more depth about Teddy over on the Classy Libertarian, so be sure to check it out right here if you’re interested. But in short, if you had to tell me who the personification of the word “masculine” would be, I would probably say Teddy Roosevelt. Not only was he a very friendly and charismatic leader and politician, but he was also a hunter, an outdoorsman, an explorer, a mountain climber, a boxer, and a naturalist. It’s mostly thanks to him that we have the National Parks that we all know and love today. He’s a part of Mt. Rushmore for a very good reason.

3. Chris Pratt

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As weird as it might be to see a Hollywood celebrity on this list, Chris Pratt is somewhat of an oddball in Hollywood. He is definitely more right-leaning than a lot of other Hollywood actors are, and while I’m not here to tell you which way to lean politically, it’s certainly refreshing to see in a world as largely left-leaning as Hollywood. He is also openly religious, making it a point to say that God is real during his acceptance speech at the MTV music awards. Even after the recent controversy surrounding his faith arose a couple weeks ago, Pratt still stood his ground and continued to stand up for what he believes in. On top of this, those who follow him on social media know that he is a real family man. Even after he and his wife Anna Faris split up, he still does whatever is necessary to provide for himself, his son, and his now fiance, Katherine Schwarzenegger. Such things involve hunting and farming (yes, this guy is a farmer). In short, Chris Pratt is a very reverent family man who stands up for himself and his beliefs, is an avid hunter, and a working farmer to help provide for his family. If that isn’t an admirable role model for young gentlemen today, I don’t know what is.

4. Glenn Miller

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This is another guy whom I’ve written an article about before, which you can check out right here if you want some more details. In short, this bandleader was, another personification of what a true gentleman should be. Coming from rather humble beginnings, he had a vision of creating his own musical sound, and stopped at nothing in order to find it. After becoming a hit, he didn’t simply use his music as a means of making money, though he did certainly make money from his music. More importantly, he used his music as a way to help people, particularly the Allies fighting as World War II. After being drafted into the war effort, Miller started using his music as a way to build morale for the allies on the battlefield. He used it as a way to keep their spirits up when morale was at an all-time low, something that would be extremely important back when the average soldier was the American everyman. That’s what made Miller such an admirable gentleman. He used his art as a way to help the little guy and remind him of home, he didn’t just do it as a way to achieve money or fame.

So there it is! Four (4) gentlemen who I believe are the best role models for young gentlemen to look up to. I’m more than positive that there are much more gents like this out there, so if you’d like to see some more lists like this, please let me know, this was a fun list to make! In any case, I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article. Please be sure to share the article, follow the blog, follow The Young Gentleman’s Guide on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and support us on Patreon. And on that note, this is Max from The Young Gentleman’s Guide, and I’ll see you next time!