Courtship and Marriage

Good afternoon, Ladies! This is Mary from The Young Lady’s Journal. Today’s topic is kind of a hard one to tackle considering the world’s ideas concerning it, but I’ll give it my best shot.

According to the Church, there are four (4) stages of courtship. The first is friendship. You should know each other and be able to discern whether the other is a virtuous and honorable person. There should be no consideration of dating if one or the other rushes in too fast, especially physically.

“Love at first sight” is not a thing. There is only lust at first sight. Physical attraction is not enough on which to base a relationship. It’s important to remember that the purpose of courtship is to marry. You shouldn’t even date them if you can’t possibly see yourself happily married to them someday, beyond the physical aspects of marriage.

It’s the man’s job to preserve and defend your honor and virtue. You should avoid being alone together, not because you will do anything, but because people assume you will. And if people assume you will, your honor is at stake. People will view you as a woman of little virtue, whether true or not.

I understand that people’s perception of you may not matter, but if your boyfriend allows others to see you that way, true or not, he’s failed to defend your honor.

The second stage is the actual courtship. If you have a father or a father figure, he should ask his permission to date or court you before he even asks you. He should have a pretty good idea that you will accept. The reason this is important is because your father is responsible for defending and protecting your honor until your marriage. If your father doesn’t view the young man as a man of honor, he has every right to say no to him. I’m not saying your father is always right, but he genuinely wants what is best for you, and if he doesn’t think this man will be good for you, that should be respected. Your father is responsible for the protection of your honor until the day you’re married, then he transfers the responsibility to your husband.

The third stage is the engagement or betrothal. A young man should ask a young woman’s father for her hand. He should be fairly certain that she will say “Yes,” at this point. Once a woman says “Yes,” it should be brought to the pastor. Before marriage, one must be cautious with physical affection. It is acceptable, but you don’t want to lose your dignity. If he’s not working to keep your image honorable, he himself doesn’t have totally honorable intentions toward you. You’re close to marriage, but this is no excuse to allow yourself to slip. You can’t afford it if you want a good married relationship.

The fourth stage of courtship is marriage. Many wouldn’t consider this as a stage of “courtship”, but it absolutely is. It’s still your relationship with one person of the opposite sex, whether your honor is fully his responsibility or your father’s. Once married, a woman has to be willing to submit to the decisions of her husband. This is not to say he owns her, but he is the leader of the team. The man is the head, the woman is the heart. It’s always been that way, and it naturally always will be. We can’t rewrite what God has already written in our nature.

If you don’t want a domineering or immature husband, don’t date a guy who’s not willing to defend your purity.

I’m sorry if this seemed a little rigid or old-fashioned, I’m just stating what my priests have made clear to me.

Good afternoon, and I’ll see you all next time at the Young Lady’s Journal!

Five Role Models for Young Ladies

Good afternoon, ladies! It’s Mary here from The Young Ladies’ Journal. I’m here to discuss five (5) ladies whom I believe to be terrific role models for any young woman. They upheld the utmost virtues and lady-like, hard-working nature. I’m writing this article as a sort of sequel to Max’s article, 4 Role Models For Young Gentlemen.

1. Mother Mary

Why Mary? Because she showed us perfect conformity to the Will of God. She was so loved and honored by God to be chosen (and asked, mind you), to be the Mother of Christ.

She is the embodiment of Christian purity, humility, courage and virtue.

She said “Yes,” when the angel Gabriel asked if she would bear the Christ child, in perfect conformity to God’s Will.

She courageously carried out the assigned task of bearing and raising Him, when everyone, including Joseph, in the beginning, believed she had acted impurely, although we know she had been chaste.

She’s the Mother of God and of us, and we honor her as such. And she accepts this role with humility.

Mary is my namesake, and without her, I wouldn’t be who I am today. I hope you find her as beautiful as I do.

2. Mother Teresa

Mother Teresa has been a great inspiration to me. She had to fight her way in to do the work she did. Her superiors wouldn’t allow her to do it for many years for fear that she would be hurt somehow.

She’s a great model of perseverance, kindness, hard work and wisdom.

Her entire life, she fought against the degeneracy of society and worked to improve the lives of those who needed it.

She left a footprint in the soil that will possibly never be filled again.

3. “Rosie the Riveter”

Naomi Parker Fraley, also known as “Rosie the Riveter”, worked on aircraft assembly at the Naval Air Station, Alameda during World War II.

Famously hard-working, she paved the way for women in the work force.

She died at the age of 96 on January 20, 2018, after being rediscovered as the inspiration for the “We Can Do It!” Poster from WWII only a few years earlier.

4. Marie Curie

Born in Poland, naturalized in France, and always inclined to pursue science, Marie was denied admission to a college because she was a woman. She went on to be the first woman to be awarded a Nobel Prize, and remains the only person in History to have been awarded two Nobel Prizes in two different fields of science.

As she stated, “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.”

Tell me she’s not a perfect model of class, elegance, and perseverance.

5. Sophie Germain

In spite of opposition from her parents and society, she educated herself using books from her father’s library. She was a self-taught mathematician, physicist and philosopher.

In defiance of her parents, she corresponded with a handful of French professors and mathematicians, including Lagrange, Legendre and Gauss, and gave a number of great insights, under the name of a man.

Because of her sex, she was never allowed to work as a mathematician, but she did work independently throughout her life.

She won the grand prize from the Paris Academy of Science for her essay on the elasticity theory, and before her death, Gauss suggested that she be awarded a degree because of it. Unfortunately, it never happened, but she did pioneer her way into mathematics in a world that didn’t know how to take a woman in such a field.

I sincerely hope you enjoyed this article. Be sure to keep tuned for more content!

Good afternoon, and I’ll see you all next time!